Silver Foxes, eating healthy, keeping active all part of our Retirement Living section.
On Labor Day — and the meaning of work
Barbara Curtis

First, consider the dwarves — who in Disney’s “Snow White” have much to teach, marching off to the mines each day singing:

“We work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work the whole day through. We dig, dig, dig, dig, dig, dig, dig. That’s what we like to do.”

The dwarves love digging, but they hate housework. Snow White teaches them to love that too, with the wonderful work song, “Just Whistle While You Work.” And her own loving work makes cleaning house a transcendent experience.

We can learn to love work too, heeding the advice of artist Mary Engelbreit, whose happy housewife tangoes — rose in mouth, vacuum in one hand, feather duster in the other — under the banner, “To Be Happy, Don’t Do What You Like, Like What You Do.”

Our culture’s work hierarchy sells us short by sneering at work like “flipping burgers” — which after all, has built good job habits into a million workers — as though we should judge people by what they do rather than how they do it. But I’ve met burger flippers — and cart collectors — who would put many CEOs to shame.

I don’t think God ranks our work at all. I don’t think He values neurosurgeons more than janitors, or airplane pilots more than parking lot attendants, or U. S. Senators over stay-at-home mommies. In fact, judging by what He has told us, those who do the most lowly and unappreciated work probably find greater favor in God’s sight. After all, God has great love for “the least of these.” And no fewer than seven passages, in three of the four Gospels, remind us that the first shall be last — as in Matthew 20:26-28: “Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave — just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.

Does that mean that someone in a high position or with a status-packed job can’t find favor with God? Not at all. It all depends on attitude.

I think of the pediatric surgeon who treated a teeny baby with Down syndrome as if he were a crown prince and his worried parents as if they were all that mattered in his busy day. Only later did we learn that Michael Harrison was famous for his work in pioneering prenatal surgery. To me, he is a living example of the way God intends us to pursue our calling — with humility and grace.

Unfortunately, we don’t see that combination — high status and humility — as often as we should. Which explains why Jesus told His disciples, “It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.” He didn’t say it was impossible, just that it was exceedingly difficult.

My own daily work runs the gamut from cleaning up kids’ messes to writing and teaching other mothers, trying never to forget that both are equally important in God’s eyes — and that cleaning the messes may actually be more important because only God sees it.

Work is a love language — one of the five listed in Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service and physical touch. But it’s a love language only if the person working — or serving — has the right heart about what they do.

Or, in the words of Kahlil Gibran, a Lebanese-American Eastern Catholic poet/philosopher/artist, best known for his work The Prophet, from which I’ve drawn this verse:

“Work is love made visible / And if you cannot work with love but only / with distaste, it is better that you should / leave your work and sit at the gate of the / temple and take alms of those who work with joy. / For if you bake bread with indifference / you bake a bitter bread that feeds but half / man's hunger. / And if you grudge the crushing of the / grapes, your grudge distills a poison in the wine.”

I don’t know about you, but I do not want to feed but half man’s hunger, and I’d rather not distill poison in the wine. I want to work because I love — and finally, to learn to love even more because I worked.

Curtis, who blogs at mommylife.net, is a mother of 12 and author from Lovettsville.

Not registered? Click here
E-mail this
Print this
Comments
3 comments on this item

Ms. Curtis, wonderful article. My only objection is that you seemed to imply that being a stay-at-home mommie is a job. It's my pet-peeve when mothers refer to being a mom as a "job." It's not. It's a RELATIONSHIP. Yes, it involves hardwork and labor (when done properly), but that doesn't make it a job. In fact, not only is it NOT a job, it is a LUXURY and a PRIVILEGE to be a "stay-at-home mommie" because it means you have a husband with enough income or an inheritence that allows you not to flip burgers or being behind a computer all day so please don't compare being a stay-at-home mom to a McDonald's worker or a doctor. A doctor can be fired and replaced for doing a bad job. Unless it's something criminal, when a mom or dad does a bad job, they can't be fired or replaced so it's really not the same thing. Labor Day is to celebrate the janitor, the doctor, etc. It's not to celebrate being a mom or dad. That's what Mother's Day and Father's Day is about.

Thanks, great article! I kept thinking, now, I read this before... and it's in Saint Josemaria's book Conversations. Do you know it? he says:

"any job that is well done is a wonderful service to society, and this is as true of domestic work as it is of the work of a professor or judge. The only work that is not a service is that of a person who works for his own self-interest.

Housework is something of primary importance. Besides, all work can have the same supernatural quality. There are no great or mean tasks. All are great if they are done with love. Those which are considered great become small when the Christian meaning of life is lost sight of. On the other hand, there are apparently small things that can in fact be very great because of their real effects.

As far as I am concerned, the work of one of my daughters in Opus Dei, who works in domestic employment is just as important as that of one who has a title. In either case all I am concerned about is that the work they do should be a means and an occasion for personal sanctification and the sanctification of their neighbour. The importance depends on whether a woman in her own job and position in life is becoming more holy, and fulfilling with greater love the mission she has received from God.

Before God all men have the same standing, whether they are university professors, shop-assistants, secretaries, labourers, or farmers. All souls are equal. Only, at times, the souls of simple and unaffected people are more beautiful; and certainly those who are more intimate with God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit are always more pleasing to our Lord."

It's so true!

CaroConway: Thanks for the reference - I've never read St. Josemaria but glad to know others have thought the same way I do.

You must be logged in to post a comment. Click here to log in.
Email Newsletter icon, E-mail Newsletter icon, Email List icon, E-mail List icon Sign up for our Email Newsletter