When Kirk and Bethany Andrews entered the Catholic Church during
the Easter Vigil Mass at St. John Bosco Church in Woodstock in 2012, it felt
like a homecoming. While they would always be grateful for the faith formation
they received as Methodists, they now felt complete in a way they didn’t know
was possible. But while they were excited to start pouring themselves into
their new church, one question troubled Bethany and she sought counsel from her
new pastor, Father Michael J. Dobbins.
“You’ve got to do what is right for your family, and seek the truth and the Lord at the end of the day. That’s how we got here.” Kirk Andrews
During her time in the Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults,
she heard people refer to Christians from other denominations as converts. If
this was accurate and they were considered Christians now, what had they
converted from? Thankfully, Father Dobbins had the answer.
“It is not converting,” he said. “You don’t convert unless you
are unbaptized. You were and are a Christian.”
A strong faith formation
The Andrews’ journey to the Catholic Church was really a journey
toward Christ that they both started when they were baptized in the Methodist
church. Growing up, their families and church communities wanted nothing more
than for both of them to grow in their love for Jesus.
While they were both Methodist, their parents had different ways
of fostering that faith. Kirk’s family was involved with the church and his
grandfather was a minister.
Bethany’s parents were also involved but occasionally would take
them to different churches. Bethany remembers one visit to an Orthodox
monastery that left an impact on her at a young age.
In college when many young adults were falling away from their
faith, Bethany and Kirk were growing in theirs. While attending the University
of Virginia in Charlottesville, they both were involved in the Wesley
Foundation, a United Methodist campus ministry. Kirk, who served as president
during his senior year, said being surrounded by other like-minded students was
helpful in his faith life.
After Bethany and Kirk graduated, they married and welcomed their
first child, who was baptized by Kirk’s grandfather, a retired Methodist
minister.
It would have been so easy to continue on in the community that
had already given them so much, but Bethany couldn’t shake the feeling that
something was missing.
Christ-centered
While Kirk still felt at home in the Methodist church of his
childhood, they both felt a need for a more worship-filled church experience.
They also were disheartened and confused by some decisions being made within
the United Methodist Church. Their move from Richmond to Woodstock in 2009
provided a chance for a change.
They were not alone in their search for something more. Several
years earlier, Bethany’s parents had felt a similar restlessness. Bill and
Ellen Davis first joined the Anglican Church but eventually joined St. John
Bosco Church.
Without any pressure from her parents, Bethany and Kirk decided
to visit the Catholic church and they were excited with what they found.
“It was completely Christ-centered,” said Bethany. “That was what
we were seeking.”
Together the couple learned more about the church. They watched
“The Journey Home” on EWTN and read the writings of the early church fathers.
“Sometimes it feels like you go to Sunday school and read all
about the Bible but not about the early church,” said Bethany. “We read how the
early church believed in the true presence and how everything we said in Mass
was biblical.”
Bethany went through RCIA first and Kirk attended the following
year.
“It really helped as we discerned God’s will for us,” said
Bethany. “Deacon Steve M. Clifford joined (the Catholic Church) as an adult so
we felt like he understood where we were coming from. The Cliffords and
their daughter, Caroline, and her husband, Ted Spinelli, were supportive and
encouraging during our time of discernment. We are so very thankful for their
love.”
“It was great to see everything laid out very clearly in the
catechism,” said Kirk. “Some of the tradition is a bit newer to us because when
you look at the Protestant tradition it doesn’t go back as far.”
The journey continues
While they were excited to share the news, it was a little bit
difficult talking to Kirk’s family about their decision.
“I just wanted to make sure they didn’t think we were turning our
backs on our upbringing,” said Kirk. “We were seeking the Lord, and they
are too. That is our common goal.”
His family has been supportive and many were present when they
baptized their second child at St. John Bosco Church.
The couple is excited to see their oldest son preparing for his
first Communion this year.
“He gets to experience this his whole life and it’s exciting for
us,” said Bethany. “It was really meaningful. It just felt like we could feel
God’s presence.”
“We feel like this is a natural part of our faith
journey and we are going to try and seek the Lord,” said Kirk. “You’ve got to
do what is right for your family, and seek the truth and the Lord at the end of
the day. That’s how we got here.”