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Opinions / Columnists / Elizabeth Foss
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    Waiting at the altar

    When you say that you don’t have time to go to Mass, or you won’t go because don’t like the parish or the music bothers you, what you are saying is that you’d literally rather not receive Our Lord who offers his act of love to you personally than go to a Mass that doesn’t meet your ideal. Jesus wants you, but you’d rather leave him at the altar than to go under whatever circumstances he’s offering.

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    4/11/18
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    How to stop a train wreck

    We are fast approaching the end of a season, and the beginning, I hope, of a bright new one. ... More

    3/28/18
    Elizabeth Foss | For the Catholic Herald
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    There is still time to fast

     I can get a jump on spring cleaning, but what to do with the growing sense that I’ve missed the point this Lent, missed the chance for penances to transform my soul?

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    3/13/18
    Elizabeth Foss
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    In the wilderness with Jesus

    It is predictable as ashes on the first day of Lent; by the second week, I’m discouraged. ... More

    3/1/18
    Elizabeth Foss | For the Catholic Herald
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    Intentional Lent

    This Lent is a good time to die.

     

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    2/14/18
    Elizabeth Foss | For the Catholic Herald
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    The gift of genuine presence

    When I give to someone else the rare gift of genuine presence, I give them the essence of Christian compassion. Compassion calls us to suffer with someone, to enter into whatever it is that causes pain.

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    2/1/18
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    Winter rest

    I spent the early days of this new year in that exceptional place of both time and space that is early postpartum. ... More

    1/18/18
    Elizabeth Foss | For the Catholic Herald
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    Live out love in the new year

    The beginning of a new year is an excellent opportunity to prune away the weeds so that the fruit can flower and then ripen. As a kindness to ourselves, we should pry away old hurts to which we stubbornly cling, but that ultimately weigh heavy on the branches and threaten their very existence. Let them go. Those old grievances are a blight.

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    1/3/18
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    Full of joy

    It has been a too-short Advent. I can’t quite find my rhythm. Every day, I make my list, and every day, I scratch things off (unfinished) or move them to another day. ... More

    12/20/17
    Elizabeth Foss | For the Catholic Herald
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    Gifts and presence

    This is the season of presence, not presents (though I don’t suggest you leave those out altogether). It is the season of sitting in God’s presence and letting Him present Himself to us. It’s the season of filling ourselves with Him — inhaling His grace. Then, we can be truly present to one another, blowing the breath of peace over our people, whispering genuine joy into the December craziness.

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    12/1/17
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    God gathers the brokenhearted

    She sits with shoulders slumped and looks at me, eyes bright with tears. After growing up in the church and marrying in the church and promising to raise her child in the church, she’s finished with the church. Actually, she says, she’s finished with God. She grew up believing that God was good and the church was full of holy men and women. With that foundation, she somehow came to think that if she were good and believed in the good God and did whatever the church said, all would be rosy.

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    11/15/17
    Elizabeth Foss | For the Catholic Herald
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    The lost art of being alone

    Three times today, an email asked for my “bio.” While it’s not at all unusual for freelance writers to be asked to write a blurb for an article or essay or book, it is a bit of a coincidence for me to need all three in one day. As I sat with hands poised on a keyboard, I considered this task. How to reduce the essence of me to 100 characters or fewer? I glanced at the other tabs currently on my keyboard. I’ve been editing college essays and grad school essays and law school essays. All to say, this has been a day spent in “tell me about yourself” mode. I left the keyboard with an eye on the clock and went for a run.

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    11/1/17
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    When God heals the broken

    Recently, I have reflected on how all our relationships are broken relationships. This looks a bit dismal at first, but once we acknowledge it — and recognize the gift that friendship with Christ is — it’s a most liberating reality. Every human relationship will disappoint if we expect it to be perfectly whole. It’s doomed from the beginning, because we all sin, and we will all have conflicts with others. And we will all hurt each other.

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    10/19/17
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    How to feed a starving soul

    I have shepherded three books into the world this year. A fourth sits poised, ready and waiting, until its season arrives. Those spines stacked one atop the other, staring at me unblinking from my dining room table, tell me that I have been disciplined enough to do the work of publishing: the research, the writing, the editing, even the attention to design. I have shown up, day after day, to do whatever task the careful stewardship of these words held on that particular day.

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    10/4/17
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    Put down the mask

    If we were to ban masks in all our interpersonal relationships, would we, too, minimize the harm we do to one another? Further, if we took down the mask and faced Our Lord as we really are, would we experience greater intimacy with Him?

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    9/20/17
    Elizabeth Foss
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    To forgive and to protect

    I wonder: in order to forgive, do we have to forget? In order to respect the dignity of a person who has hurt us, do we have to let him or her back into the space where they harmed us in the first place?

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    9/7/17
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    What have you paid to follow Him?

    How can we be Christ to our neighbors? How can we live a life in our community that proclaims the Gospel by genuinely loving the people God puts right in front of us: the man struggling with a language barrier at the bank, the pregnant teenager who needs a home, the black baby orphaned by a mother in jail for life, the lady in your parish who feels exiled because she is the child of immigrants and the women around her are affirming rhetoric that denies her dignity?

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    8/23/17
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    Faith over fear

    It’s August and there are so many new beginnings slated for later this month. In our family, where grown children are no longer bound to school calendars and younger children have been homeschooling year-round, August is still (and always has been) that start of something new.

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    8/9/17
    Elizabeth Foss | For the Catholic Herald
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    Painful grace

    We close the covers of the beautiful book, and sit and look at each other. She sighs contentedly, the deep and satisfied sigh of a 10-year-old who has just heard the story of Beauty and the Beast translated from its original French. She sighs the fairytale sigh, the one that says, “They were good, but flawed. They hoped. They experienced hardship and suffering. Evil was defeated. Beautiful lessons were learned. They lived happily ever after.”

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    7/26/17
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    In defense of rest

    Rest — both the vacation kind and the kind at home — is a kindness we pay to our souls. I’m resisting the overused, ironically tired, term “self-care,” and opting instead to remind myself that rest is an answer that most comes to mind if I ask myself the question I so often ask others: What can I do for you? 

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    7/10/17
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    Take up and read

    It is not unusual to find a Catholic who doesn’t read the Bible personally on a regular basis. That never seemed quite right to me. I’ve always deeply believed that having a relationship with God that only exists in the physical — just showing up at Mass and consuming the Eucharist — is like being married and skipping conversation. Jesus wants to have words with us. He wants to engage in dialogue. He gave us this richness of conversation and if we never open the book, it’s like ignoring our spouses when they try to talk to us.  

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    7/6/17
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    It's all about Jesus

    Tomorrow, my daughter receives her first communion. 

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    5/19/17
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    What did we miss?

    As we enter into the liturgy of Holy Week, we are called to weep in community, and then to rejoice with one glorious voice. 

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    4/4/17
    Elizabeth Foss
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    Lent is a marathon

    The battle for Lent is being waged in our heads — that’s where most marathons are finished, or not. 

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    3/20/17
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    Toward a fruitful Lent

    Lent is a good time for self-control awareness, for strengthening our exercise of self-control, because Jesus reminds us that “if any want to become my followers, let them deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me” (Lk 9:23). Everyday life calls for self-control. We will be called to take up our crosses daily and actually carry them. 

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    3/7/17
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    Before Lent begins

    There is a certain spring in our steps these days. Daylight hours are growing longer and the breezes are actually warm. Even though it’s February, and years past have yielded significant snow during this stretch of time, the meteorological calendar seems to be marching on. So, with the great outdoors in rhythm, it is easy to embrace the pre-Lenten season. Soon, purple will drape the altar and penance will be upon us. These are the days we seize to prepare for a fruitful Lent — those Lenten days that warm and then flower into a glorious Easter.

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    2/22/17
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    Engage with God before Google

    Even in the world of real people and real faces, the conversations are shutting down. We don’t want to hear any more. Too much contention. Too much anger. Too much fear where there once was friendship, or at least neighborliness. It’s as if the running thread has been pulled, and the fabric of community is falling away into tatters. It’s the era of “unfriending.”

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    2/8/17
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    God’s conversation with us

    I found myself scrolling through Facebook the other night, looking for an idea for a writing topic. It had been an interesting social media day, where a particularly contentious post on my wall had unintentionally been posted publicly, inviting people of all walks of life to chime in on a topic that presses all kinds of hot buttons. I commented that this night was a particularly good time to be looking for topics outside of politics.

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    1/25/17
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    Grace and forbearance

    I have nine children, and I have been a parent for more than 28 years, but I’m learning all kinds of new lessons in parenting and people skills. As everyone gets older, extended periods of time when we’re all gathered (15 in all, including my husband, daughter-in-law, and grandchildren) are intense life learning sessions.

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    1/11/17
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    God with us

    I thought that turning the page to a new year would somehow be magical. It would make all things new. I had hope in the power of the calendar. Last Christmas, I settled into a romantic meditation on the Blessed Mother and the Baby and all the hope the Christmas story offered.

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    12/29/16
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    Welcoming our new shepherd

    I was pregnant with my seventh child the year my eldest was confirmed. Bishop Paul S. Loverde was the celebrant. This year, that seventh child will be confirmed. With my own children and with other children I love, I have been to more confirmation Masses than I can count since that one in 2002. At every one, I have been accompanied by a child of the incessant question age who will ask about the bishop’s hat and the shepherd’s crook.

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    12/6/16
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    The right time for Thanksgiving

    Meals are where life happens. Many of us communicate our deepest desire to connect and to sustain to the people we love through the medium of food.

     

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    11/22/16
    Elizabeth Foss

    The day after the election

    In the days before Election Day, so much noise rose to a crescendo, yet I was barely aware as the intensity built. I took in information at every turn, but rarely did I let anything go. I’m left with a ringing in my ears and throbbing behind my eyes, the result of a constant blur of tweets and Facebook posts, newscasts, and radio ads 

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    11/8/16
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    Toward holy rhythm

    With the occasionally crisp, subtle coolness of September in Virginia, my pace usually quickens just a bit in expectant hope. September brings order — the order of days that follow along the tracks of a schedule, the order of deadlines and appointments written in ink. I love order; it gives me a sense of security. Order brings rhythm and rhythm underscores a family in harmony with each other and God.

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    11/2/16
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    Silencing perfectionism

    It happened for the first time almost exactly to the minute, 28 years from the moment my first baby was born. That morning, I didn’t have to silence the voice. For the entire span of a childhood and then some, the voice has been telling me the same lie over and over again. But the morning of my eldest boy’s birthday, I couldn’t hear the voice. I didn’t have to argue with it.

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    11/2/16
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    Home is where love lives

    This time of year - as the academic calendar begins and the last strains of summer's song fade - the people in my household scatter. College-aged children move into dorms. School-aged children leave and come back and leave again every day, making the case for a revolving door at our front stoop. Even the boy who moved clear across the country made his way home for a brief weekend at the end of August. And then he left again.

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    8/24/16
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    Create a new ritual

    It's that time of year in the life of a family when calendar squares begin to fill. Pencils in hand (because things change and it's not quite time for pens yet), we grid in the soccer schedule, the "first day of" dates, the fall birthdays, the auditions, the new lessons. When finished, we stare in disbelief at how full it all looks. Yet that fullness rarely inspires a sense of abundance. Instead, there are alternate feelings of dread and disbelief. Sometimes, there is even fear. How in the world will all these things pull together for a life that is meaningful and not chaotic? May I suggest that the day-to-day rushing that seems so inevitable with growing families desperately needs intentional ritual?

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    8/10/16
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    God in the darkness

    I recently spoke with a woman in her early 30s who was surprised to find herself in an extended period of darkness. She and her husband had suffered a job loss, a pregnancy loss, and a move resulting in loss of support - all in the last two years. She goes through the motions of a practicing Catholic, but she feels as if God has abandoned her.

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    7/22/16
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    Growing good friends

    I see it happening, the unfolding of a girl's heart towards the warmth and light of community. And then, just as the petals are in full flower, I watch what seems nearly inevitable: petals pulled back in tightly onto themselves, hardened to protect against the pelting that comes.

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    7/12/16
    Elizabeth Foss

    When death comes to Neverland

    I remember the ride home from the hospital with each of them. Nine times, putting precious cargo - so tiny and new and miraculous - into the car. Nine times, driving ever so carefully, with the unspoken understanding between us that the world was a dangerous place and we were here on earth to protect our children.

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    6/17/16
    Elizabeth Foss

    Why are you making so much noise?

    "We live, in fact, in a world starved for solitude, silence, and privacy, and therefore starved for meditation and true friendship."

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    6/8/16
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    On graduation and humility

    It is the season of diplomas and honors, recognition and resumes. As the flurry swirls around me, I find myself thinking increasingly of humility. When a young person sets out on the course of finding his life's work, nothing will serve him better than humility. This time of year serves as a powerful reminder to all of us that God cannot choose us - cannot use us - until we come to the end of ourselves and find Him. As long as we rest upon our laurels, we cannot lean into Him.

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    5/17/16
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    Choose joy

    She almost jumped out of the car in the still dark morning at the airport, about bursting in her eagerness to go with me on a grand adventure. We were to fly across the country together and meet her new niece, my new granddaughter. This sweet 7-year-old girl who had spent so much of the last few years saying goodbye to people she loved was being afforded the opportunity to be among the first to say hello to new life.

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    5/3/16
    Elizabeth Foss

    The joy of love in springtime

    The family is the setting in which a new life is not only born but also welcomed as a gift of God. Each new life "allows us to appreciate the utterly gratuitous dimension of love, which never ceases to amaze us. It is the beauty of being loved first: children are loved even before they arrive." Here we see a reflection of the primacy of the love of God, who always takes the initiative, for children "are loved before having done anything to deserve it." ("Amoris Laetitia," 166.)

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    4/19/16
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    Where two or three gather

    I have a personal relationship with Christ. That is, He and I talk off and on all day long, inside my head. It's our relationship - real, alive and very much awake and aware of my world, the sphere in which I orbit, the daily round of my private life. I bring Him my needs and my concerns and my praises. And I try mightily to hear what He is telling me. In His word, Jesus shows me again and again how to pray in silent solitude. Then, He shows me how much He wants community for me.

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    4/5/16
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    Between grief and joy

    I'm in a precarious position as I write this column. It is the Friday before Palm Sunday. We are but a few days from Holy Week. This column will be published on Holy Thursday, just as the most somber days of the year begin. Three days later, it will be Easter, the most jubilant day of the year.

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    3/23/16
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    You get to write the story

    "You get to write the story."

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    3/8/16
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    Let this cup pass from me

    We say it so often, sometimes more than several times a day: Thy will be done. It is the anthem of surrender. But do we stop and listen to the words as we say them? Do we let the full weight of their meaning take root in our consciousness? Do we absorb the message and then let go, release control and relinquish to God what was God's all along?

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    2/22/16
    Elizabeth Foss

    To falter, to fail, to find Him

    It's time for the familiar, seasonal conversation. Every year, it's about the same, just with different combinations of children. They talk about what to give up for Lent. They weigh one thing against another, testing the viability of various options. They bounce ideas off one another, and they are honest in rejecting or applauding those ideas. One refrain always makes itself heard.

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    2/8/16
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    Partners in the Gospel

    I have a theory about mothers of large families and Empty Nest Syndrome. We are not afflicted, at least not in the conventional way. As the friends who had babies with us when we had our first begin to enjoy (or lament) their empty nests, we see ours still quite full. Three of my children are grown and gone. Six remain at home. By most standards, six children under roof is still quite a full nest. Those parenting trenches to which people often refer? I'm still in them.

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    1/25/16
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    Merciful resolutions

    I've been looking forward to this new year, eagerly anticipating the calendar change, setting my hopes on a new digit in the "year" column making all things new. I'm not sorry to see 2015 slip away. I hear the drumbeat, steady and rising, propelling me forward: We can do better. We can do better. We can do better.

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    1/4/16
    Elizabeth Foss

    Seeking genuine joy

    The pink candle has been lit. The pace quickens as we move closer to the feast. Christmas is coming - oh, the joy.

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    12/15/15
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    It’s not Christmas yet

    Just moments ago, I sat here in irritated frustration while a colored spinning wheel spun and spun and spun. It must have been 30 seconds or so. An eternity, really, in Internet time. I could barely sit still for the time it took to load a blank page upon which to write.

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    12/2/15
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    Is this the holiday for healing?

    On the way to soccer practice tonight, my son found four radio stations playing Christmas music. As I write this column, it is exactly two weeks until Thanksgiving. When you read it, the official beginning of the holiday season will be one week away. Those dates on the calendar bring smiles to many people. They look forward with fond anticipation to a season of warmth and togetherness. They embrace the hustle and bustle and they embrace all the friends and family who come together. Life looks like a Norman Rockwell painting from the last week in November until the first week in January. All is calm and bright.

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    11/18/15
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    Let God be the author

    I live my life in narrative. I love stories; they were the stuff and substance of my childhood, the things that framed my paradigm and gave shape to my dreams. Inside my head, there's always a story going. Often the stories beg to be tapped out onto the pages of my blog or this column or into the margins of my Bible. For the most part, I am at peace with my own stories.

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    11/4/15
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    Encourage one another

    "I'm not being ridiculous," she said, as she pulled one napkin after another out of the box. "I have four children at my table. We need all these."

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    10/20/15
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    In every guest, we see Christ

    Hospitality scares me. You, too?

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    10/7/15
    Elizabeth Foss

    To the mother at home: You are enough

    "Is it not enough," she asked me earnestly, "to be a woman at home, caring for a family? Everyone around me has a job that enables her to contribute to her family financially. Even within the church, I'm bombarded every day with clarion calls to do more, to give more. And here I am doing my best to feed and clothe and care for these five children, reserving just enough energy for the end of the day and the man that I married. I feel like both the secular world and the faith community are saying it is not nearly enough. "

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    9/23/15
    Elizabeth Foss

    Overcoming the loneliness epidemic

    There is the faintest hint of crispness in the dawn these days, just a little teaser that alludes to autumn's approach. The seasons are shifting. A previously quick early-morning grocery run took 45 minutes transit time one way yesterday. Back-to-school traffic is a real thing, friends.

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    9/9/15
    Elizabeth Foss

    Carried on the crest of the waves

    On a recent vacation to the beach, my youngest child did her very best to gather up every seashell on the shore. One after another, she'd bring them to me, marveling over their intricate beauty. Sitting on a quilt on a small piece of the edge of the continent, looking over the vast expanse of the sea, I inhaled the wonder of it all. There is a God, above and beyond my imagination, who has created a universe so vast and so intricate that His design genius is staggering. This God, the one who has attended to every detail of the smallest seashell while also filling the land with oceans deeper and wider than we can see, asks me to cast my cares upon Him.

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    8/26/15
    Elizabeth Foss

    A father’s voice

    When my boys were little, I watched a phenomenon play out so many times that I'm sure it's an infallible truth: If they are playing and their father shouts from the sidelines, they hear him. Over every other voice, they heard their dad. Most times, they would execute the play or correct their position accordingly. They trusted him and they responded out of that trust. They heard him above all the other voices, especially above the negative voices or those whose messages were counter to his.

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    7/28/15
    Elizabeth Foss

    Arms wide open

    Sometimes - often, really - our children teach us our most important lessons. I think maybe that's the way it's supposed to be; the most important lessons and the hardest ones for us to master are the ones that they grasp before we do. And so they lead us by their examples, and we find ourselves someplace better.

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    7/1/15
    ELIZABETH FOSS

    He sees you

    There are days (and nights, lots of nights) when mothers feel as if they are toiling in obscurity. Who sees the things that require all our time and attention? Who hears us begging a baby to go to sleep because the clock is ticking into the wee hours of the morning and our sleep time before the other child awakes is becoming increasingly shorter? Who understands the inner-workings of our minds as we drive toward the school clinic in the middle of the day, all the while trying to figure out how we are going to complete the work left behind on the desk before its deadline? Who knows the thought process that went into planning, budgeting, shopping and cooking every meal on a family's table, all while trying to pay tuition bills? More importantly, does anyone know or care who cleans the kitchen?

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    6/10/15
    Elizabeth Foss

    The summer of self-care

    Humidity hangs heavy today and the temperature has crept toward 90; it's undeniably feeling like summer in Virginia. As I sit with a calendar that has palpably shifted from the frenetic end-of-school-year busyness to a more sanguine, relaxed busyness, I'm making a promise to myself. Summer will be for self-care.

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    5/27/15
    Elizabeth Foss

    Rooting out sin

    It's planting time. And growing time. And watering time. But, wait. First, it's weeding time. Every year, I say I'm going to get after the weeds before it's a big job, and every year, I don't. The weeds around the trees are particularly overgrown this spring. They're woody and tenacious and in need of some serious tending.

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    5/13/15
    Elizabeth Foss

    A year of mercy

    "The mercy of God is poured out upon us, making us just and giving us peace. This is a time for the Church to rediscover the meaning of the mission entrusted to her by the Lord on the day of Easter: to be a sign and an instrument of the Father's mercy." - Pope Francis

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    4/29/15
    Elizabeth Foss

    Wrapping words around His word

    It's a good thing Easter is a season, because Lent was loath to let go. The week before Easter, my brother-in-law died. Before the suitcase was unpacked after his funeral, a very dear friend died in the early morning of Holy Thursday. And Good Friday was cold and dark and a little scarier than usual this year.

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    4/14/15
    Elizabeth Foss

    The grim reality of betrayal

    There is so much in the Gospel of the days leading to the Crucifixion that makes me squirm. When I read it, and I put myself in the scene, I wonder what I would have done. Would I have stayed awake in the Garden of Gethsamane? I'd like to think so, but I know well all the times I've fallen asleep, both figuratively and literally. At every turn, in the account of those last hours, there is the betrayal of Jesus' closest friends.

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    4/1/15
    Elizabeth Foss

    The lies inside our heads

    Lent can be a long stretch of time for some of us. From every corner comes the call to repent - the exhortation to make a full accounting of our sins, to see our messes in the light of day. Some of us are very good at that. Some of us go to the desert with Jesus, intending to spend Lent in His company, and we get distracted by the devil.

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    3/18/15
    ELIZABETH FOSS

    It’s not about the hamburger

    So, how's the fasting going? You are not alone if you're finding that it is a struggle to give up what you gave up. It's not just a corporal struggle - at least, it's not supposed to be. Our purpose in fasting is spiritual. In our daily lives, the world can overwhelm us. We are bombarded by all those things that fill our senses and demand our attention. Both the desires and the genuine needs of our flesh distract from our spiritual growth. Our daily goal - every day - is to grow more perfect in Christ.

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    3/3/15
    Elizabeth Foss

    Home: It’s worth it

    The Christmas boxes are all carefully packed and tucked away until next November. Every year, I fight a little anxiety as I pack them away. "If I'm not here next year, will they know how to find everything? Will they remember where it all goes? Will they be able to make Christmas?" Of course, this anxiety has its root in the fact that I finished treatment for cancer just as the Christmas season closed 24 years ago. Even if it's not conscious, my mind goes there, always will go there, it seems.

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    1/21/15
    Elizabeth Foss

    A new day with no mistakes

    "Isn't it nice to think that tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet?" -- L.M. Montgomery

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    1/6/15
    Elizabeth Foss

    The work at home

    As she bent to examine my child, the health professional, making small talk, asked what I do.

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    6/10/14
    Elizabeth Foss

    A woman is the heart of her home

    Whenever I slip inside a church, I can feel the tension ease from my shoulders. It happens every time. I inhale the sweet air and it fills my lungs with peace like no other atmosphere. What is it that imparts such peace? Surely it's the presence of God in that place.

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    7/16/13
    Elizabeth Foss

    Seven habits still effective

    Stephen R. Covey, author of Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, recently died of complications from a bicycle accident. He was 79. The first thing that popped into my mind when I heard the news was that he lived, he loved, he learned, and he left a legacy, just as he encouraged millions to do during his lifetime. I first read Seven Habits shortly after it was published in 1989. I was a recent college graduate and a newlywed. To say that the book had a profound effect on my adult life is not to overstate.

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    8/8/12
    Elizabeth Foss

    Is it true, kind, necessary?

    I remember it like it was yesterday. I was a young mom with a preschooler and a new baby and another mother I'd met working at a small magazine called Welcome Home invited me to her house to watch her family in action. She was a Catholic woman, a few years older than me, whom I admired greatly. She had five children at the time. The oldest was 10 or 12. In my book, that made her a veteran. I had no idea what parenting a large family looked like from the inside and was grateful for the invitation.

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    2/1/11
    Elizabeth Foss

    Eucharistic adoration for children

    There is no doubt that most Catholic adults can understand and appreciate how beneficial time spent in adoration is for their souls. What they may not have considered is how much it can mean to children. In 1996 Pope John Paul II said, "I urge priests, religious and lay people to continue and redouble their efforts to teach the younger generations the meaning and value of eucharistic adoration and devotion. How will young people be able to know the Lord if they are not introduced to the mystery of His presence?"

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    2/9/10
    Elizabeth Foss
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    Dressing room discovery

    “It’s me,” she says. “I look terrible in everything. I wanted to buy beautiful things. I wanted this to be fun. But I look terrible in everything.”

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    10/1/09
    Elizabeth Foss

    Like little children

    We took the children to Mass at the Basilica of the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception last week. This outing is a favorite pilgrimage for our family, one we make several times a year. Often, when we go, my husband is directing the televised Mass for EWTN. So, we arrive several hours early. He works on the details that go into a show in advance and the children and I are left to wander through the Shrine's small chapels. Since we visit frequently, everyone has his or her favorite place to stop and light a vigil candle.

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    5/22/09
    Elizabeth Foss
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    Elizabeth Foss
    Elizabeth Foss
    A featured columnist for the Catholic Herald, Elizabeth has written an award-winning family life column for 24 years. Her work has appeared frequently in Faith and Family Magazine and Catholic Digest and she has also been been featured at Catholic Exchange, EWTN, Our Sunday Visitor, and  The   Washington Post. Her blog,  In the Heart of My Home, has received numerous awards, including  Best Homeschooling Mom Blog  (2006 and 2009) and  Top Ten Blogs for Christian Women .
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