Develop a thriving relationship with God

As I have confessed to you many times before, I do not consider myself a good prayer. My prayer is often dry. Dry as in “is anybody listening?” Not that it doesn’t “count” or anything, but I am hardly a mystic.

 

So when something dramatic happens in prayer, I often take it as a sign that it is not just for me, but to be shared with all of you as well.

 

And so it was a few days ago. While praying, I tried to imagine how God was seeing me at that moment. Immediately, I received an image of Jesus Christ, Savior of the Universe, with open arms and a huge smile on his face, welcoming me the way I used to welcome my nieces and nephews when they were little (and still excited to see me), and ran full speed into my arms. He was doing the same, ready to catch me as I ran to him, and delighting in it the same way I used to delight in the joy in their little, miraculous faces.

 

I know, it could have been my imagination. But the immediacy and vividness made it feel like something more.

 

Even if it was just my imagination, it still reflects the truth. It staggers me to think that he could love me as much as I love the five beautiful children he has placed in my life. And yet, my faith tells me that he loves me even more, infinitely more. That almost is impossible for me to fathom.

 

As I said, I think this little vision is for you as much as for me to help you see and maybe begin to grasp his love for you.

 

We all repeatedly have heard that “God is love.” Some of us even affixed the phrase to felt banners in our CCD classes back in the ’70s. But, at some point, we hear it so much that it becomes just another meaningless phrase. How many of us really know it? How many of us really base our faith in a relationship with a Father who loves us madly?

 

I think, no matter how often we hear that God is love, that it is all too easy to revert to a rules-based mentality. To be “holy,” I just have to avoid sin, say the rosary and try not to have too much fun.

 

There is nothing wrong with any of that. In fact, it is all true, except, of course, the fun part. But on its own, it isn’t going to make you holy. And, without a thriving, active relationship with God, it’s going to be difficult to sustain any merely rules-based program.

 

My favorite saint, St. John Paul II, said that once we start asking what we are supposed to do, we have left the realm of love and entered the realm of ethics. When somebody is in love, the “rules” come naturally. A man in love doesn’t ask, “How many times am I supposed to send flowers? How many buds per delivery?” He wants to show his love, as often and as many ways as possible. It overflows.

 

When we are in love with God, we want to serve him. We’re looking for ways to serve him more. It gives us joy.

 

The problem, of course, is that God generally is unseen. It’s easy to have a reciprocal relationship with a flesh-and-blood person. But two-way conversations with the Lord of the Universe are a little harder to come by.

 

There are two important keys to a real, loving, two-way relationship with God. The first is Scripture. If you’re in love with someone, you want to learn everything you can about them. It is all the more important when we can’t tangibly see our beloved. How do we get to know God better? By reading his love story, the Bible. We see God’s first revelations to his people. We see Christ in action, curing the sick and welcoming sinners. We see his sacrifice for us.

 

If we aren’t studying Scripture, the God we worship might very well be the product of our own imaginations, and not the actual God who has revealed himself to us.

 

The second key is prayer — the heart of the relationship. It’s where we talk to him. Our prayer shouldn’t be rote recitation of formulas. It should be true communication, a sharing of the heart. St. Teresa of Avila said that “prayer is nothing else than being on terms of friendship with God.” We pour our hearts out to him. We share our struggles. We thank him for our blessings. We ask for his help.

 

And, if we can manage to block out the noise of our lives, we will find that God speaks to us through prayer and through Scripture.

 

I want you to do a little exercise for me. Close your eyes and ask God to surround you with his peace and protection. Then imagine Him with outstretched arms and a big smile on his face, waiting to catch you as you run to Him.

 

Then pray. Talk to him. Pour out your heart to him. He loves you.

 

Bonacci is a syndicated columnist based in Denver and the author of We’re On a Mission from God and Real Love.

 

 

 

 

 

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